Unlocking the lifestyle: your guide to conscious exploration

Welcome to 'Lessons in the Lifestyle' by The Sensual Memoirs of Lacey Blackwood. Whether you're just starting out or looking to expand your horizons, here you'll find essential tips, insightful advice, and candid information to navigate the lifestyle with confidence and curiosity. Prepare to be informed and intrigued as we delve into honest conversations about desire, communication, and freedom.

Finding Myself Through BDSM and Kink

I’m a stubborn ‘cummer’. I rarely achieved climax in less than 20 minutes, and it was more likely that it would take at least 40 plus. Quite often, I didn't reach climax at all. I felt for a long, long time that something was wrong with me. Maybe my anatomy was built wrong? Maybe there’s a secret to reaching climax easily that I’ve not been let in on, something everyone else knows about except for me? There was a part of me that knew my issue stemmed from my mind. I have ADHD; my brain doesn’t switch off to allow me to enjoy the moment, which reduces my chances of reaching peak pleasure. 

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Addicted to Her Pleasure: A step-by-step guide to sensual and yoni massage

Touch and acts of service are my love languages. I absolutely LOVE being stroked, caressed and massaged. Skin-to-skin touch calms me when I’m stressed or upset, and is a huge turn-on for me when I’m in the mood for something more intimate. I’m a qualified massage therapist with many years of experience working in salons and spas, providing everything from lymphatic drainage to deep tissue massage, so it felt natural to extend my touch services to more intimate parts of the anatomy. 

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When boundaries blur - and how to re-establish them

We broke our own boundaries last week. We were out with friends, and we split off into separate rooms at a busy club. Luke asked if I was okay for him to stay and play with our friend Annie, while I went with two other friends to find a quieter space for some impact play. I was surprised and a little taken aback by his question, as he had been so very adamant that we must always play together when at a club. I felt safe with our friends, and I could see how much he wanted this, so I said yes. I was happy with this arrangement, as I have no issue with playing separately. It’s Luke who doesn’t like the idea of me being away from him, because he wants control over single males approaching and playing with me. He is scared of them hurting me and wants to keep an eye out for my well-being. After being told that around six men were queuing up behind me for a turn on me without discussion or consent while I was being spitroasted, I can understand why. I couldn’t see them standing behind me, and Luke had to tell them to back off in a very firm tone as he watched the scene unfold with my head between his thighs. I would have had no idea that they were there or if they used protection until it was too late. But I was with people I trusted, so I felt comfortable enough to leave him to it. 

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My first anal experience, and how I prep for anal sex.

I want to start off by saying that I love anal sex. My first experience was at age seventeen with my then boyfriend who was ten years older than me. He suggested we try it while taking a breather during a good sex session at his apartment one evening, and being the super experimental girl I was, I immediately said yes despite never really having given it much thought before. 

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